Separation is not easy, but it is not always bad. When a relationship is already in an unhealthy condition, when a couple becomes two people who hurt each other. When there is no way out to improve relations, separating may be the best thing that can be done. Because, staying in a relationship that makes you physically and psychologically weak is not a wise thing to do.
The relationship ends can be for many reasons. Whatever the reason, ending the relationship can indeed be a difficult thing to do. Here are some tips you can do to end your unhealthy relationship with your partner, Ladies.
Think about what you are going to say and try to practice with a friend or in front of a mirror, or write down your thoughts so that the direction of the conversation that you will convey to your partner does not change or get out of context.
- Choose the right place
Talk to your partner in a place that is comfortable for both of you. If you are worried about safety, public places might be the best choice.
- Say it directly
If you feel safe, talk with your partner about your desire to separate directly. Emailing, sending text messages, or talking on the phone may sound easier, but it is usually not the best choice because it will allow misunderstanding and unclear issues. Remember, Ladies, don’t ever ask a friend to share it with your partner, prone to information that may increase or decrease and will make the situation worse.
- Respect your partner
If your partner asks why you should break up with him, be honest! It can help your partner have a better relationship in the future. But, don’t insult or try to hurt him. End the relationship with the situation and conditions are good.
- Don’t give false hope
Usually when we want to end a relationship with a partner, we often say “We can be friends right?” Although the intention to make friends is just lip service. If you really want to be friends, that’s no problem. However, if you only say this to make your partner accept this decision of separation easier, then don’t do it, Ladies. This can cause more hurt feelings. Even if you plan to stay friends, give your partner space. It might be worthwhile to take a short break from seeing or talking to each other for a while so that excessive expectations don’t arise and are even more painful.
- Stay with the decision
If you feel the decision to separate is the right thing, don’t let your partner try to convince you to stay together. It’s normal for someone to cry or get angry during breaking up and it can be very difficult to deal with. But feeling bad or guilty is no reason to stay in a relationship.
Those are some tips you can do to end the relationship with your partner, Ladies. Separation is not a pleasant choice, but in a relationship that can no longer be saved, separation can be a wise decision, for the sake of both parties.